If I had known how the election was going to turn out, I might have named the sermon something else. I might have named it "Becoming a Beloved Community of Resistance." (I have since discovered a book by Robin Meyers named Spiritual Defiance: Building a Beloved Community of Resistance. It is on my "to read" list!)
|A "neighborhood love note" at the UUCiA.|
On November 13, I offered safety pins and chalk as possible ways to be in solidarity with marginalized communities. A couple of things have come to my attention about using chalk to write "Neighborhood Love Notes" like the ones you saw as you walked into the building last Sunday. Rev. Ashley Horan (creator of the Neighborhood Love Notes project) wrote up some "best practices." If you want to read Ashley'sentire note, including "best practices", it can be found here. I will continue to write "neighborhood loves notes" at 6 Locke Street, and I hope you will add to them!
As I mentioned on the 13th, the safety pins are meant to be a way to show that you are in solidarity. They are meant to be worn if you would take the risk of trying to intervene -- hopefully to de-escalate a situation of harassment that you are witnessing. Wearing the pin does entail risk in the sense that these situations have the potential to become volatile. All of us know that it's "the right thing to do" to stand up for a someone who is being harassed or targeted for hateful behavior, but of course whether or not we will have the courage or ability in the moment is hard to know in advance. Wearing the safety pin is a reminder to be
our best selves, to push ourselves in these challenging situations should we encounter them. Some would say that if you choose to wear the pin where it can be seen in public, it is incumbent upon you to follow through to try to help. Your goal is not to confront the harasser/attacker; your goal is to ensure the safety (physical and emotional) of the person being harassed/targeted. Often, this will look like talking with and connecting with the one being harassed and ignoring the attacker; then getting yourself and the one being harassed to a safer space. If possible, you would then want to help the person get some support around them if they are still shaken or in some level or shock or distress. (To see a short video with a quickdemonstration, click here. For a longer, more comprehensive video on various techniques by Caitlin Breedlove of Standing on the Side of Love, click here.) For some of us, it might not feel safe to wear the safety pin in public. Some might choose to wear the pin under their clothing, where it is not visible to the public, simply as a reminder. The wearing of these safety pins might be a short-lived phenomenon; it’s hard to know. But having a plan for when you see harassment or an attack is a good idea, regardless.
According to SPLC's Hate Watch, "Between Wednesday, November 9, the day after the presidential election, and the morning of Monday, November 14, the Southern Poverty Law Center collected 437 reports of hateful intimidation and harassment." Many people in marginalized communities (including people of color, immigrants, Muslims, LGBTQ persons, disabled persons, and others) are feeling less safe. Please know that if you, yourself, are feeling unsafe, there are people who would like to be there for you. Massachusetts Attorney General Maura Healey has set up a hotline to report bias-motivated harassment, threats or intimidation: 1-800-994-3228. This number is for Massachusetts residents to use; you may also fill out a civil rights complaint online. Read more here.
May we be our best selves, which sometimes entails risk. May we be our best selves, which means having each other's backs. Know that you are loved, and you are not alone.